Dirtyd0g
01-22-2012, 04:09 PM
I'm furious at the moment. Those of you that have been here in the last few years probably met My friend and helper Chris. a little over 3 years ago Chris needed a place to stay and I let him stay at my place. He moved locations here a few times at first in my sons bedroom, later to the camper and at last he had a bed set up in the loft of my garage. I have known him since he was about 8 and we have never had any problems. 8 months ago he got interested in dating my sister in law. My wife was all against it but over a couple months I calmed her down and they started dating. At first it was really cool her and Chris came over all the time and brought her 3 boys (my nephews) which got our kids playing together and really felt like great family fun to me.
A few months ago she came over telling me and my wife that Chris had the clap and gave it to her. She claimed to have gotten it taken care of but Chris refused. For months she asked me a couple times a week to talk to him about it because she didn't want to and I always said I didn't want in the middle of it I would rather pretend not to know. I have bent over backwards for both of them time and time again. 3 weeks before christmas the transmission went in her truck.Chris and I fixed it with an agreement to pay $25 per week and a one time payment of $75 before christmas because I needed the money for my kids to have a great christmas. All in all I was still out over $500 in the parts I paid for. She never gave me a dime of it. I had an agreement with Chris that I would provide him with a cell phone in exchange for him making a couple torque converter deliveries a week for me.
She had a big dog that was not allowed in her apartment and was about to get kicked out over it. I told them they could keep it here but feeding and watering it was their responsibility. A week went by of me messaging them everyday asking if they fed the dog and they did not. We fed it but I told them if they weren't going to take care of it they needed to find him a new home. Well they came and got the dog withotu telling me so I searched for hours looking for him thinking he got loose. I had even talked to them and they never told me they got him. After hours of searching I gave up and later that night my mother in law told my wofe they had come to get it. I messaged them telling them it was disrespectful and rude to not at least mesage me or leave me a note.
My sister in law called me begging me to talk to Chris about the clap issue and I told her again it would just make trouble between him and me. She told me she had told him that I knew. so I mentioned to him that he needed to talk to her about it because it really wasn't my deal but I was tired of hearing about it all the time. He quit speaking to me and I left it alone for about 10 days just to allow him to cool down and maybe get it taken care of. In november her dog chewed up the charger to her laptop and she borrowed my charger for 2 weeks because I have the identical charger. When I got it back I had it for a few days and then they borrowed it again without permission. I asked for it back and they gave it back, but borrowed it again.
I asked her to give it back every day for the last 2 weeks and every day she said she would drop it off on her way home from work the following day but she never did. Finally Chris brought it and my cell phone back today and I tried to discuss it with her. Aparently she confessed to my wife a few days ago that it was all a lie to keep Chris from hanging out with me so he would be home all the time and only be with her. My wife did not understand the confession until today when we found out that it was all a setup to drive a wedge between me and my friend.
The thing that bothers me the most is that he still thinks I made this up about him. I truely feel sorry for him on the deal because in the process of driving a wedge between us she has stuck a knife in both of our backs. He is so convinced it was me trying to hurt him he won't speak to me and she won't dare tell him the truth.
Now a guy I considered to be one of my best friends won't even speak or listen to me, my kids don't understand why their cousins don't come over anymore. She has fulfilled this weeks soap opera drama with irrepairable damage.....I hope Chris figures it out I doubt her and him will last much longer with stuff like this going on but I really think I am done letting friends no matter how far we go back stay with me. I have done it a few times and it always ends in the person hating me and somehow acting like I used them and did them wrong.
Good thing there is a rant section because I know this was a rant and I am just furious, not to mention I cannot reach the knife in my back to remove it.
Alan
A few months ago she came over telling me and my wife that Chris had the clap and gave it to her. She claimed to have gotten it taken care of but Chris refused. For months she asked me a couple times a week to talk to him about it because she didn't want to and I always said I didn't want in the middle of it I would rather pretend not to know. I have bent over backwards for both of them time and time again. 3 weeks before christmas the transmission went in her truck.Chris and I fixed it with an agreement to pay $25 per week and a one time payment of $75 before christmas because I needed the money for my kids to have a great christmas. All in all I was still out over $500 in the parts I paid for. She never gave me a dime of it. I had an agreement with Chris that I would provide him with a cell phone in exchange for him making a couple torque converter deliveries a week for me.
She had a big dog that was not allowed in her apartment and was about to get kicked out over it. I told them they could keep it here but feeding and watering it was their responsibility. A week went by of me messaging them everyday asking if they fed the dog and they did not. We fed it but I told them if they weren't going to take care of it they needed to find him a new home. Well they came and got the dog withotu telling me so I searched for hours looking for him thinking he got loose. I had even talked to them and they never told me they got him. After hours of searching I gave up and later that night my mother in law told my wofe they had come to get it. I messaged them telling them it was disrespectful and rude to not at least mesage me or leave me a note.
My sister in law called me begging me to talk to Chris about the clap issue and I told her again it would just make trouble between him and me. She told me she had told him that I knew. so I mentioned to him that he needed to talk to her about it because it really wasn't my deal but I was tired of hearing about it all the time. He quit speaking to me and I left it alone for about 10 days just to allow him to cool down and maybe get it taken care of. In november her dog chewed up the charger to her laptop and she borrowed my charger for 2 weeks because I have the identical charger. When I got it back I had it for a few days and then they borrowed it again without permission. I asked for it back and they gave it back, but borrowed it again.
I asked her to give it back every day for the last 2 weeks and every day she said she would drop it off on her way home from work the following day but she never did. Finally Chris brought it and my cell phone back today and I tried to discuss it with her. Aparently she confessed to my wife a few days ago that it was all a lie to keep Chris from hanging out with me so he would be home all the time and only be with her. My wife did not understand the confession until today when we found out that it was all a setup to drive a wedge between me and my friend.
The thing that bothers me the most is that he still thinks I made this up about him. I truely feel sorry for him on the deal because in the process of driving a wedge between us she has stuck a knife in both of our backs. He is so convinced it was me trying to hurt him he won't speak to me and she won't dare tell him the truth.
Now a guy I considered to be one of my best friends won't even speak or listen to me, my kids don't understand why their cousins don't come over anymore. She has fulfilled this weeks soap opera drama with irrepairable damage.....I hope Chris figures it out I doubt her and him will last much longer with stuff like this going on but I really think I am done letting friends no matter how far we go back stay with me. I have done it a few times and it always ends in the person hating me and somehow acting like I used them and did them wrong.
Good thing there is a rant section because I know this was a rant and I am just furious, not to mention I cannot reach the knife in my back to remove it.
Alan